March 2021
Yes, that is right. You don’t have to accept anything. What I am talking about accepting? Well, to get to the point, I am talking about yourself or your situation. I’ll give you a moment to let that sink in. You heard—well, read—that correctly! YOU…DO…NOT…and I repeat, DO NOT have to accept yourself or your situation. Don’t think on this one too hard. I am about to fill you in on what exactly it is that I am telling you.
First and foremost, do not take this as me telling you that you are absolute garbage and have no worth. This is me telling you that if you don’t like it, then FIX IT! Time and time again, it’s the same old “crybaby” problems.
“I’m fat.”
“I hate this,” or “I hate that.”
“I can’t because of this.”
“This job is terrible.”
“My boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t make me happy.”
“I am horrible at small talk.”
“I am not good with interacting with the opposite sex.”
“I’m broke.”
“I’m weak.”
I could literally make this blog nothing but a list of grievances that people commonly have about themselves or their situation. Well, let me just reiterate loud and proud for those in the back. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACCEPT YOURSELF OR YOUR SITUATION!!!!
I commonly tell people, “If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the problem.” If you spent half as much time working on what or where you want to be as you do belly aching and moaning, I GUARANTEE you that you would accept yourself AND your situation. It is literally as easy as that. If you don’t like something about yourself or your situation, then change it.
You think you’re overweight? Then eat right and work out. You hate this or that? Then stop doing this and that and do the other. You can’t because of this? Then do it because of that. Your job is terrible? Then get another one. Your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t make you happy? Then break up or get a different one. You’re bad at small talk? Then talk in class or practice. You’re broke? Then get a job or learn a skill/trade. You’re weak? Then lift.
I just answered all of the aforementioned woes with simple solutions. Do you know why they were simple solutions? It is because there were simple problems. That is the great thing about these so called “first world problems.” Typically, they are simple problems with simple solutions. It is really just a matter of taking a break from complaining long enough to really see the big picture.
Negative Nancy: But, but, Daniel! What if I do accept it or just don’t want to change?
Daniel: Ahhhh, that is a fantastic question! Do you really want to know what to do?
(Negative Nancy shakes her head yes in an eager manner.)
Daniel: YOU GET OVER IT!
That’s right, folks. It really is as easy as that. Just get over it. If you are completely satisfied with yourself and situation, then don’t complain about it. If you refuse to or don’t want to change, then don’t put that burden on your friends and family. More than likely, if they read this blog, they will realize that they don’t like hearing you complain over and over about the same thing. They will then take my advice and stop listening to you, because they don’t like the situation of you complaining about something that you have the power to fix.
So, please, take this advice. You have all the power in the world to create your own self and your own life. So why not make it the best for both? At the end of the day, you are really all you have. You have to be the one to change. You have to be the one who realizes that you don’t have to accept your current self or situation. You are the one that has to make a proactive effort. If you aren’t trying to live your best life, then what is it that you are doing? You are capable of so much. YOU are worth it. Stop making excuses. Stop complaining. Stop accepting what is, and start accepting what could be!
With all the best intentions for you and yours,
-Daniel (your mental health guru) Pall ✌
Daniel Pall is a master’s student in the Department of Agricultural Economics.
First and foremost, do not take this as me telling you that you are absolute garbage and have no worth. This is me telling you that if you don’t like it, then FIX IT! Time and time again, it’s the same old “crybaby” problems.
“I’m fat.”
“I hate this,” or “I hate that.”
“I can’t because of this.”
“This job is terrible.”
“My boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t make me happy.”
“I am horrible at small talk.”
“I am not good with interacting with the opposite sex.”
“I’m broke.”
“I’m weak.”
I could literally make this blog nothing but a list of grievances that people commonly have about themselves or their situation. Well, let me just reiterate loud and proud for those in the back. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACCEPT YOURSELF OR YOUR SITUATION!!!!
I commonly tell people, “If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the problem.” If you spent half as much time working on what or where you want to be as you do belly aching and moaning, I GUARANTEE you that you would accept yourself AND your situation. It is literally as easy as that. If you don’t like something about yourself or your situation, then change it.
You think you’re overweight? Then eat right and work out. You hate this or that? Then stop doing this and that and do the other. You can’t because of this? Then do it because of that. Your job is terrible? Then get another one. Your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t make you happy? Then break up or get a different one. You’re bad at small talk? Then talk in class or practice. You’re broke? Then get a job or learn a skill/trade. You’re weak? Then lift.
I just answered all of the aforementioned woes with simple solutions. Do you know why they were simple solutions? It is because there were simple problems. That is the great thing about these so called “first world problems.” Typically, they are simple problems with simple solutions. It is really just a matter of taking a break from complaining long enough to really see the big picture.
Negative Nancy: But, but, Daniel! What if I do accept it or just don’t want to change?
Daniel: Ahhhh, that is a fantastic question! Do you really want to know what to do?
(Negative Nancy shakes her head yes in an eager manner.)
Daniel: YOU GET OVER IT!
That’s right, folks. It really is as easy as that. Just get over it. If you are completely satisfied with yourself and situation, then don’t complain about it. If you refuse to or don’t want to change, then don’t put that burden on your friends and family. More than likely, if they read this blog, they will realize that they don’t like hearing you complain over and over about the same thing. They will then take my advice and stop listening to you, because they don’t like the situation of you complaining about something that you have the power to fix.
So, please, take this advice. You have all the power in the world to create your own self and your own life. So why not make it the best for both? At the end of the day, you are really all you have. You have to be the one to change. You have to be the one who realizes that you don’t have to accept your current self or situation. You are the one that has to make a proactive effort. If you aren’t trying to live your best life, then what is it that you are doing? You are capable of so much. YOU are worth it. Stop making excuses. Stop complaining. Stop accepting what is, and start accepting what could be!
With all the best intentions for you and yours,
-Daniel (your mental health guru) Pall ✌
Daniel Pall is a master’s student in the Department of Agricultural Economics.